Punishment is a central element in BDSM. Find out here what purpose it serves, what types there are and, above all, what you need to pay attention to.
Punish me! The punishment in BDSM
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Power dynamic
Inside the mind of a Cuckold or Cuckquean
A cuckold or a cuckquean is a person in BDSM who enjoys the humiliation of watching or knowing that their partner is having sex with someone else.
What does the acronym D/s actually stand for?
D/s is a BDSM abbreviation for Dominance and Submission, referring to the deliberate and consensual creation of unequal power dynamics.
Topping from the bottom: your wish is my command
When do we actually talk about “topping from the bottom,” how does this phenomenon arise, and why is it such a controversial term?
Primal Prey – Catch me if you can!
In the BDSM context, Primal Prey is a kind of prey that is hunted, captured, overwhelmed, and conquered by a hunter in an instinctual game.
Instinctive, animalistic, dominant: Primal Predator
A Primal Predator in a BDSM game acts like an animal, following its instincts. Find out what kind of thrill lies behind it here.
Power dynamic – the heart of each BDSM activity
Power dynamic is one of the most important concepts, the central element of any BDSM relationship or activity, distinguishing it from fetishes and kinks.
The collar: fashion accessory or symbol?
Whether you buy your own collar or whether the awarding of the collar is a meaningful act between the people in question is up to each person.
FLR – When the woman is the boss at home
FLR is the abbreviation for “Female Led Relationship,” a type of relationship in which, by agreement, a dominant woman is in charge.
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