Sissy is a BDSM role that follows a certain kink. A male-identified person undergoes feminization because they find it humiliating.
Humiliation through feminization: Sissy
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Roles
The Middle perspective
The role of the Middle describes a person who identifies with a younger mindset, typically around the teenage age, or shows corresponding behavior.
Complete submission: Serf
In BDSM, a serf refers to a person who agrees to relinquish total control to someone with whom they are in a relationship.
Parental Care: Mommy and Daddy
A Mommy or Daddy is a person who takes on a parental and nurturing role within the context of ageplay. Gender-neutral terms for this person include “Caregiver.”
Bull and Cuckcake: The third wheel?
In BDSM, a bull or cuckcake is the third person in a cuckold dynamic who performs sexual acts with the dominant person.
How is a Top actually defined?
“Top” can refer to a role itself or the general status of a player – namely when they are “on top” and thus in control of the execution.
The popular term “Sub”
The popular term Sub emphasizes the character components of bottom players. How the role is lived is highly individual. The most important thing is the attitude.
Bottom as an umbrella term
A bottom submits mentally or physically to one or more others. This refers more to the general status of the receiving part than to a specific type of playing.
BDSM roles at a glance
There are around 50 BDSM roles to choose from on Deviance. An overview of the most common BDSM roles, divided into Top, Bottom and Other.
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