Golden shower is the term for urine play. Here you can find out what the attraction is, what to watch out for and what you should avoid.
Golden shower: Just let it out
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Rough and tough: hemp rope
Since hemp rope maintains its length under tension, it is an ideal rope for the Japanese bondage art shibari, but for this reason, it is more suitable for experienced bondage fans.
Pretty captivating: Rigger or Rope Top
“Rigger” refers to a profession in the maritime industry. The alternative name Rope Top is made up to show also the status of playing “on top” within a BDSM activity.
Aftercare – What it comes down to
Aftercare refers to the mutual psychological and emotional support of the players immediately after a BDSM session by talking about and reflecting on the experience.
Submission – The fine art of surrender
In exploring the concept of submission, one delves into the dynamics of power and trust within interpersonal relationships. A conscious decision to relinquish control or authority.
Uniform fetish: Attention!
The uniform fetish is often associated with negative examples like SS uniforms, yet the range of this fetish is more diverse than one might think.
The taming of the shrew: Brat Tamer
Like many other terms in the BDSM realm, “Brat-Tamer” can be taken literally. It’s a challenging role.
It’s getting hot: wax play
A tantalizing BDSM practice with a unique visual aspect: Wax play involves dripping or pouring hot wax onto bare skin.
Limits: hard and soft, but always important
In BDSM, setting limits establishes the framework within which play occurs. There are distinctions between hard and soft limits, which exist on both the submissive and dominant sides.
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