Keyholders in BDSM are tops who hold the key to a chastity belt or similar device, thereby controlling the pleasure of another person.
Keyholder – Playing the key role
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Chastity belt – Closed for fun
Chastity belt: For some a sex toy; for others, an instrument of torture. Find out here what they look like and what they can do.
Mindful bondage art: Shibari
Shibari is a special style of sexual bondage in which people are tied up in complicated patterns and are rather quiet.
Locktober – orgasm fasting
Every autumn, the hashtag Locktober appears on social media, calling for 31 days of chastity. But why do people do this to themselves?
The term Hotwife or Cuckoldress
Often the Hotwife or Cuckoldress is sexually dominant over her partner and her outward play serves to reinforce her dominance.
Ageplay – innocent game or perverted?
Ageplay represents a BDSM role-playing game in which the participants pretend to be a different age than they actually are. Particularly popular: DDLG
Switch – Two souls in one chest?
As a switch in BDSM, it’s important that you don’t let people tell you that you have to choose the dominant or submissive side.
Fetish party – A Kinky Nightfever
What is a fetish party? What happens there and how much does it have to do with BDSM? Can I play there too? Find out in this article what awaits you there.
Needle play: Painfully beautiful
Needle play is a kink that falls into the realm of edge play and should therefore be enjoyed with caution, but promise maximum pleasure.
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