Keyholders in BDSM are tops who hold the key to a chastity belt or similar device, thereby controlling the pleasure of another person.
Keyholder – Playing the key role
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Chastity
Chastity belt – Closed for fun
Chastity belt: For some a sex toy; for others, an instrument of torture. Find out here what they look like and what they can do.
Locktober – orgasm fasting
Every autumn, the hashtag Locktober appears on social media, calling for 31 days of chastity. But why do people do this to themselves?
Ruined orgasm – Hands off!
A ruined orgasm is a practice where a person experiences climax without satisfaction. Find out here how to ruin an orgasm.
Tease and denial – Finding pleasure in frustration
Whether as a heightened state of sexual arousal or as a means of erotic torment and humiliation, tease and denial can be used in diverse ways, even outside of the BDSM context.
Chastity for beginners: silicone cock lock
The silicone cock lock is a relative of the chastity cage and chastity belt, but much better suited for beginners interested in chastity.
Chastity. Or: “a never cuming story”
In BDSM chastity play, the bottom participant abstains from sex, masturbation, and/or orgasms at the request of the top participant.
Trust is good, but orgasm control is better
In BDSM, orgasm control refers to the prohibition, intentional delay, or enforcement of a partner’s orgasm.
Pretty edgy: Edging
Edging is a specific type of orgasm control in which a submissive person is repeatedly pushed to the limit of arousal.
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