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Power dynamic
Femdom – Under female leadership
Although “Dom” is gender-neutral, the term is still often associated with male dominance, which is why the specific term “Femdom” emerged.
Why some people live their kinks 24/7
In a 24/7 relationship, a kink or power imbalance is lived day and night. That’s okay as long as the dominant part has only the best intentions for both.
Longing for security: Little
In BDSM jargon, a Little is a person who likes to adopt toddler-like behavior and is looking for a parental figure of reference.
The term Hotwife or Cuckoldress
Often the Hotwife or Cuckoldress is sexually dominant over her partner and her outward play serves to reinforce her dominance.
Ageplay – innocent game or perverted?
Ageplay represents a BDSM role-playing game in which the participants pretend to be a different age than they actually are. Particularly popular: DDLG
Ponyboy and Ponygirl: Beyond the tails and rides
Pony play is an animalistic aspect of BDSM. But what exactly is a Ponyboy or Ponygirl? In this article, we’ll shoot the breeze…
Pony play – Poetry in motion…
Pony play is a unique form of pet play in BDSM. In this article, you’ll find out what it’s all about and what makes being a pony so appealing.
Dom: short for dominant
Having control without controlling. Respect and be respected. As well-known as the role of the Dom is within and outside the BDSM world, it is also complex.
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