Having control without controlling. Respect and be respected. As well-known as the role of the Dom is within and outside the BDSM world, it is also complex.
Dom: short for dominant
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Dominance
Playing on a thin edge: knife play
Knife play sounds like big knives and dangerous play. How exactly this looks in BDSM and where to start can be found here.
Punish me! The punishment in BDSM
Punishment is a central element in BDSM. Find out here what purpose it serves, what types there are and, above all, what you need to pay attention to.
Degrader – Looking down
Degraders are dominant people who enjoy degradation and humiliation. BDSM is about the erotic consensual humiliation of a bottom.
What does the acronym D/s actually stand for?
D/s is a BDSM abbreviation for Dominance and Submission, referring to the deliberate and consensual creation of unequal power dynamics.
Topping from the bottom: your wish is my command
When do we actually talk about “topping from the bottom,” how does this phenomenon arise, and why is it such a controversial term?
Rape play – A sensitive fantasy
What is rape play and what makes this BDSM practice appealing? We’ll explain what it’s all about and what to consider.
Dom drop: Those who fly high can fall low
Despite all precautions, things don’t always go smoothly in BDSM. Here you’ll learn what’s behind a dom drop and what causes it.
The blackmailing game
In BDSM, blackmailing is a role play in which a person is blackmailed. But what can the whole thing look like and what is the appeal?
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