Section

A to Z

SSC – Safe, Sane, Consensual

With the rise of the RACK philosophy, the usefulness of SSC has been increasingly questioned, as the principle of safety is considered open to interpretation.

by Lynn | A to Z, Roles

Spankee – whipping boy or girl by passion

A Spankee is a person who desires to be spanked for erotic reasons within the BDSM context. But what makes this so appealing?

by Marina | A to Z, Basics

Bondage: The thing with the ropes, right?

Bondage, in a sexual context, refers to all types of play in which someone is restrained from moving freely in some way.

by KatKristall | A to Z, Kinks

Yiffing: a furry affair

Yiffing is a term from the so-called Furry scene and refers to any form of sexual activity that takes place between such characters.

by Lynn | A to Z, Kinks

Objectification – The thing with things

Objectification is a BDSM practice in which a person is viewed as an object for erotic purposes. Learn here what makes it so appealing.

by KatKristall | A to Z, Kinks

Humiliation – when shame is put on display

Humiliation in BDSM often involves public exposure. You can find out exactly what this looks like and why you like it here.

by Lynn | A to Z, Basics

Tunnel play: until the (bitter) end

Tunnel play is an umbrella term for BDSM activities that, once started, cannot be stopped. Find out here what makes it appealing.

by Ginger San | A to Z, Roles

Dom: short for dominant

Having control without controlling. Respect and be respected. As well-known as the role of the Dom is within and outside the BDSM world, it is also complex.

by Kitteh | A to Z, Kinks

Figging – pretty spicy!

What does a piece of ginger have to do with sex and BDSM? Deviance explains what figging is all about and what to consider.

by KatKristall | A to Z, Kinks

Playing on a thin edge: knife play

Knife play sounds like big knives and dangerous play. How exactly this looks in BDSM and where to start can be found here.

by Lynn | A to Z, Basics

Punish me! The punishment in BDSM

Punishment is a central element in BDSM. Find out here what purpose it serves, what types there are and, above all, what you need to pay attention to.

by Kitteh | A to Z, Basics

Role-play: escaping into pleasure from everyday life

Role-play is not only a popular way to spice up sex life in BDSM. But why do we actually enjoy role-playing?

by KatKristall | A to Z, Kinks

Sensory Deprivation: BDSM completely out of senses

Sensory Deprivation refers to an popular aspect of BDSM in which the five senses are manipulated, restricted, or taken away.

by KatKristall | A to Z, Roles

Degradee – Sinking into the ground with pleasure

In BDSM, a Degradee is a Bottom who enjoys degradation and humiliation. Find out more about the role and what the game looks like here.

by KatKristall | A to Z, Basics

Fetish by colors: the Hanky Code

The Hanky Code is unfamiliar to many now, but it used to be a widely used system in the LGBTQ+ scene. Find out here what the colors mean.

by Marina | A to Z, Roles

Inside the mind of a Cuckold or Cuckquean

A cuckold or a cuckquean is a person in BDSM who enjoys the humiliation of watching or knowing that their partner is having sex with someone else.

by KatKristall | A to Z, Roles

Degrader – Looking down

Degraders are dominant people who enjoy degradation and humiliation. BDSM is about the erotic consensual humiliation of a bottom.

by Lynn | A to Z, Roles

The Slut: a new sexual confidence

Today, “Slut” in the BDSM context describes a sexually confident person. Here, there’s no fixed hierarchy of top or bottom.

by Lynn | A to Z, Basics

What does the acronym D/s actually stand for?

D/s is a BDSM abbreviation for Dominance and Submission, referring to the deliberate and consensual creation of unequal power dynamics.

by KatKristall | A to Z, Roles

Pet – Adopt don’t shop

When we talk about a Pet in BDSM, it’s less about our fluffy four-legged friends and more about the Bottom in pet play.

by Kitteh | A to Z, Products

Hand and ankle cuffs: Simply efficient

Hand and ankle cuffs are among the most popular toys in BDSM. In this article, we provide an overview of the most common variants. Which one suits you?

by KatKristall | A to Z, Kinks

Degradation: Between sinking into the ground and flying high

Degradation is one of the most common BDSM clichés we encounter, but what exactly does it entail and what does it actually mean?

by Lynn | A to Z, Roles

Fetishist – It’s the love for details

A Fetishist is a lover of an object or material. For example, diapers, latex, or feet serve as fetishes for Fetishists.

by KatKristall | A to Z, Basics

Sex-positive: party motto or lifestyle?

Just a trendy marketing name for parties or a way of life? Does being sex-positive automatically mean sex parties or just that everyone has a place here? And what does that have to do with book clubs?