YKINMKBYKIO stands for Your Kink is not my Kink but your Kink is okay. This is a basic principle of the BDSM community promoting tolerance.
YKINMKBYKIO: I don’t understand it, but I like it!
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Kitteh – Language-controlled writing offender
Crush a few taboos under Pleaser heels like smoked cigarettes after sex. Deviance author Kitteh on why she writes about BDSM.
KatKristall – Kinkucation with glitter
“My contradictory preferences are something I draw strength from.” Why KatKristall, author on the Deviance team, writes about BDSM.
Lynn – From a dingy dungeon to a wine bar
“A refined evening among friends, who just happen to all be a bit kinky.” Why Lynn, author in the Deviance team, is campaigning for BDSM.
Marina – Struggle at stigma level 5
“If I ever stop working with food, I’ll build a Tinder for BDSM!” Marina, founder of Deviance, explains how a joke turned into something serious.
Lea – the battle cry of a bore?
“It’s the rage that motivates me to stand up for the BDSM community.” Why Lea, web and app developer in the Deviance team, is campaigning for BDSM.
How kink shaming creates additional barriers
Kink shaming describes the devaluation of a person based on their sexual preferences and is also frequently encountered within the BDSM community.
What does polyamory have to do with BDSM?
Polyamory describes a form of love life very common in BDSM circles, where a person has, loves, and maintains relationships with multiple partners.
Vanilla isn’t everyone’s flavor. And that’s fine.
A term to differentiate oneself. However, there are different interpretations of what exactly that means. Much of what was once considered kinky is also practiced by vanillas.
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