Degrader – Looking down
Degraders are dominant people who enjoy degradation and humiliation. BDSM is about the erotic consensual humiliation of a bottom.
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KatKristall
Pet – Adopt don’t shop
When we talk about a Pet in BDSM, it’s less about our fluffy four-legged friends and more about the Bottom in pet play.
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A love letter to the sense of shame
When playing with humiliation, you’re also playing with the sense of shame. A personal story about what there is to like about it.
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Degradation: Between sinking into the ground and flying high
Degradation is one of the most common BDSM clichés we encounter, but what exactly does it entail and what does it actually mean?
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Sex-positive: party motto or lifestyle?
Just a trendy marketing name for parties or a way of life? Does being sex-positive automatically mean sex parties or just that everyone has a place here? And what does that have to do with book clubs?
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Getting off on consent in 5 steps
Consent or consensus is a word that often comes up in BDSM. But how do you establish it? How do you negotiate consent? Here are five points.
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Breathtakingly beautiful: Breath play
Breath play, or breath control, is one of the most popular but also most dangerous BDSM practices. But what forms and dangers are there?
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Queer: a change of perspective
When you start to explore BDSM and the BDSM community, one of the terms you come across is ‘queer’. But what does that actually mean?
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STI and STD Part III: Misconceptions and clichés
There are a lot of misconceptions about sexually transmitted infections. It’s time to clear up a few, because the best prevention is still education.
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The blackmailing game
In BDSM, blackmailing is a role play in which a person is blackmailed. But what can the whole thing look like and what is the appeal?
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What does CNC (consensual non-consent) mean?
CNC stands for consensual non-consent, meaning the desire for something to happen against one’s will. Find out what this can look like here.
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How to talk kinky online… and how dafuq not
Profile viewed, smiled at the picture, swiped right. And… It’s a match! But what now? Here are our tips on how to turn the chat into a success.
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Two diaper fetishists talk openly
There are so many clichés about the diaper fetish. To clear up some of these, we interviewed two diaper fetishists.
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Diaper fetish – Acting little in big pants
Diaper fetish, Adult Baby, Diaper Lover: Primarily, it’s about expressing childlike aspects that everyone more or less carries within them.
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STI and STD Part V: safer sex and BDSM
Due to a wide range of practices, the risk of transmission is particularly high in BDSM. Find out what you need for safer sex here.
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STI and STD Part IV: infection risks in BDSM
The risk of infection for STDs and STIs is significantly higher in BDSM due to the wide variety of activities. Find out here what you need to watch out for.
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KatKristall – Kinkucation with glitter
“My contradictory preferences are something I draw strength from.” Why KatKristall, author on the Deviance team, writes about BDSM.
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STI and STD Part II: the 8 most common
What are common sexually transmitted infections? What symptoms do they present? How are they treated, and what are the chances of recovery?
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Masochism: The M in BDSM
Masochism describes the sexual pleasure derived from suffering and pain. But why do some people enjoy it, and where does this preference come from?
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STI and STD Part I: how they’re transmitted
STIs, commonly referred to as sexually transmitted infections, can often be transmitted unintentionally. In BDSM, unfortunately, the possibilities are particularly numerous.
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Dominance: Something like leadership quality?
Dominance is one of the six major areas and, along with “Discipline,” is behind the D in BDSM. And yet, dominance can manifest itself in various ways.
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10-points to check: Is my Dom dangerous?
Some people exhibit reckless and manipulative behavior in BDSM relationships. Find out if your Dom is dangerous with this self-check.
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10 red flags that Subs should pay attention to with Doms
There are specific red flags that can be observed again and again in submissive or dominant personalities. This article is dedicated to “Dangerous Dominants”.
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Golden shower: Just let it out
Golden shower is the term for urine play. Here you can find out what the attraction is, what to watch out for and what you should avoid.
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