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by Deviance | How to Deviance, Kinky Life, Tips

What do the buttons under the profiles mean?

Probably you’ve seen it since the introduction of the premium features: Instead of two buttons, there are now five buttons under each profile suggestion. But what do they mean?

by Marina | How to Deviance, Kinky Life, Tips

Here they are: new features for your kinky dating!

Finally: The Deviance Premium features are here! Four new functions to increase your chances of exciting kinky encounters. Here’s how.

by Lynn | A to Z, Roles

Sadomasochist – It’s all about the pain

Talking about BDSM, the word “sadomasochist” quickly comes up. But it’s not that simple because it’s a role that is very body-oriented and a bit more narrowly defined.

by KatKristall | A to Z, Kinks

Sounding – The Inn’s and Out’s

Sounding is the penetration and stretching of the urethra. Find out here what the fascination of this BDSM practice is, how it works and what to look out for.

by Kitteh | A to Z, Basics

What does a Dominatrix or Dominus do?

A term that also enjoys a certain level of recognition outside the BDSM scene. But what exactly does the job of a Dominatrix entail and what does a visit involve?

by Lynn | A to Z, Basics

FRIES – tastes good even without ketchup and mayo

“FRIES is one of many consent models in BDSM, alongside SSC and RACK, and is particularly a good guideline for beginners.”

by Kitteh | Interviews, Stories

From Munich with love…

How fast should it go, and how many coincidences are actually still normal? Miss Lena shares her experiences on Deviance.

by Kitteh | A to Z, Basics

Who or what is actually the BDSM community?

When you start exploring BDSM, you often hear the term “scene” or “community” – also here on Deviance. But who are all these people, and when do you become part of it?

by Lynn | A to Z, Roles

Spanko – loves spanks in every aspect

Spanko is derived from “spanking,” meaning “to hit.” So, a Spanko is into spanking in the BDSM context, both as the giver and receiver.

by KatKristall | Kinky Life, Tips

Say no to drugs! Especially to BDSM and drugs…

BDSM and drugs, both promise a high. But these extremes do not belong together. In this article, you’ll find a concentrated load of raised index fingers.

by KatKristall | A to Z, Kinks

Fear play – Wild for fear

Fear play is about playing with fear. The top scares the bottom person in a consensual way and both are sexually aroused through this.

by Marina | A to Z, Kinks

Why some people live their kinks 24/7

In a 24/7 relationship, a kink or power imbalance is lived day and night. That’s okay as long as the dominant part has only the best intentions for both.

by Kitteh | Kinky Life, Tips

Dealing with a break-up: Goodbye my BDSM lover

Going through a breakup is terrible. When a partnership ends, that’s bad enough. But what if BDSM was also involved?

by Ginger San | A to Z, Roles

Longing for security: Little

In BDSM jargon, a Little is a person who likes to adopt toddler-like behavior and is looking for a parental figure of reference.

by Deviance | BDSM & Society, Stories

Labels and why they are overrated

Labels provide security, and Germans in particular are known for wanting to standardize everything and call it by name. Why this can sometimes be annoying in BDSM…

by Kitteh | Kinky Life, Tips

Play with yourself: Ideas for kinky masturbation

For BDSM, you need at least two people, right? Can masturbation even be kinky? You bet! Here are a few ideas.

by Kitteh | A to Z, Kinks

Electro Play – BDSM with electricity

Electrostimulation has been used in medicine since the 1950s. However, electro play, which involves stimulation with electricity, is also popular in BDSM.

by Kitteh | Kinky Life, Tips

Help, the person I like is not kinky!

Can BDSM only work with kinksters? What if I like someone who isn’t kinky? Kitteh spills the beans.

by Kitteh | Interviews, Stories

Sought, found, married! Interview with our users

“Deviance aims to help BDSM-interested individuals who hide their desires from each other to connect. But what are the experiences?”

by Marina | A to Z, Basics

What is a drop and why does it happen?

A drop occurs when someone cannot emotionally handle a BDSM session and negative feelings take hold. Why this happens and how to avoid it.

by Lynn | A to Z, Roles

Primal – Wild thing, you make my heart sing

“Primal” is a BDSM practice in which participants fully embrace their animalistic instincts, including biting, scratching, and grunting.

by Kitteh | How to Deviance, Kinky Life, Tips

Your profile text – How to type right!

In online dating, your profile text, along with your pictures, is the first impression of you. Here we explain what you should pay attention to in order to arouse interest in your suggestions.